Lynette Bolton is well known television presenter, owns her own event production company and starred in one of the best Australian televisions series ever made (well it was in my opinion it was ha-ha). And she’s here to talk talk all thing’s motherhood, careers – as well as her tips for planning the perfect first birthday!
You are a proud mumma of two beautiful daughters, Siarra & Piper! Can you tell us how your life has changed since becoming a mum?
I don’t think anything can really prepare you for being a mum the first time around. No matter how many books you read or much advice you get given it really is a ‘learning on the job’ scenario. Our lives changed fairly dramatically after Siarra was born – but it was more we put quite a few things temporarily on hold rather than saying goodbye to them forever! We were lucky that she was mostly a good sleeper and eater so we were able to get into a routine with her relatively quickly. Obviously the late party nights became a thing of the past. Mostly 😉
Poor little Piper! As is the case with most second children, I am guessing, she has really just been thrown in the deep end of being in the family. Unfortunately all the craziness of our lives must go on with a Siarra and work but Piper has settled in wonderfully. We actually started major renovations 2 weeks after she was born which lasted 9 months so she is well and truly comfortable with a little chaos!
I definitely miss being able to sleep in, or read a book, or spend the day watching DVDs but spending time with my two girls is such a special experience I wouldn’t swap it for the world.
What is your relationship with your body since having your girls? Do you have a fitness routine at all?
In both my pregnancies I put on close to 30 kilos. They were big babies in my defense (!) but I definitely relaxed my eating and exercising regime for both of them. To be honest I wish that I didn’t fall for the ‘eating for two’ trap (twice!) as it is a lot of weight to then try and lose. I have found that after having Piper it has been much harder to lose those pregnancy kilos. I don’t know whether that it is because I am older (!) or because our life has just been so chaotic that I haven’t had time to exercise like I was able to after Siarra was born but I have found it a much longer process (side note – the best thing ever was finding a gym with a crèche after Siarra was born as it not only helped us both get out of the house but I also got some time out for myself and the chance to do some exercise) I have always been quite active and fit but I was finding it really hard post Piper. So a couple of months ago I committed to a 6 week program of KX Pilates and PT sessions 6 days a week and by the end I felt stronger and fitter than I had in a long time. It was six weeks of early starts and serious pain but I am so glad that I just sucked it up and did it! I think I am still probably 5kg over my pre-bubba weight but I am feeling stronger and healthier than I have been and I just keep telling myself that muscle weighs more than fat haha!
As well as being a wife and mother you are also a popular blogger, media personality and own your own event management company! Can you tell us how you keep a balance? Any advise for other working mums out there?
To be honest I find it really hard. When I am with the girls I can have a hundred things I am thinking about workwise and then when I am not with the girls I can feel so guilty! At the end of the day I think that is it important to realise that we are all human and can only do so much. The world won’t end if I sneak in a couple of emails at the park and conversely if I take advantage of my ‘me’ time when I can it lets me be more present and focused when I am in Mumma mode. As the girls are getting older I am trying more and more to turn the work switch off when I am with them. I am also lucky that they have a great daycare that they go to twice a week which gives me a chance to have allocated work days. Siarra also makes a point of telling me to put my phone down if she is feeling ignored which definitely helps bring me back to earth! Jude and I also now have a rule where we leave our phones at the other end of the house once we are all home together. It stops all the work and social media distractions while the girls are awake.
Some people may not know but before you were a well-known event planner, you worked as a financial planner! Can you tell us what it was like to make such a drastic career change and what would you advise be to other people out there wanting to pursue their dreams?
Haha my previous life as a superannuation financial planner! It was a great job and I think it taught me a lot about budgeting and being organised. At the end of the day however my heart wasn’t in it. I was lucky enough to have a very supportive husband as well as some great contacts in the events industry who helped make such a giant life decision work out for me in such a great way. I honestly think that if your heart isn’t in your existing role then you should definitely bite the bullet and follow your dreams! Just make sure (and this is the financial planner in me coming out!) that you have thought about all the implications of making such a move. Timing is key and you need to make sure that you are ready, financially and emotionally and every other –ally, for what could be a significant lifestyle change. When I first left financial planning I worked in work experience roles for quite a long time – you really need to make sure you are prepared for the hard work and potentially extremely limited income when following your dreams. But, as they say, if you love what you do you will never work a day in your life and the work experience roles will turn into paying jobs will turn into world domination!
If you were to give your top 3 tips to a mum planning her babies first birthday, what would they be?
- Don’t go overboard. I think there is a lot of pressure for parents to plan these ridiculously large first birthday parties and, at the end of the day, your bubba is only turning one and they will have no idea either way
- Take a minute throughout the day to pat yourself on the back. You made it through the first twelve months AND you just planned a party. Go you!!
- Plan the party around your child’s sleep times. A couple of hours of power partying that doesn’t interrupt your hard fought sleep routine is perfect.
Haha I don’t think so! We are mostly ex-WAGs now anyway with our boys mostly retired. I still see the Sydney girls every now and then and love to see their gorgeous smiling faces.
And of course the token question! If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be and why?
Joan Rivers. What a hoot! And I would love to hear some of her ‘Mum’ stories and parenting pieces of advice haha!
If you are after more great party advise don’t forget to check out Lynette on Sunrise, or head to her blog!