So I’ll be the first to admit, I am awkward AF when it comes to compliments. Almost as awkward as I get when people are singing happy birthday to me – Like where do you look? What do you do? Can I eat this yet?
Lately, a lot of people both IRL and online have commented that I look good, I look skinny and even ask me ‘what’s my secret?’ – and yes it’s true I have lost weight.
And while it’s so lovely when people give those compliments, I’m certainly not complaining about that! I struggle to take the compliment on board, or boast about my weight loss secrets because, well there is absolutely nothing to report.
With both my pregnancies, I found that for the first twelve months after my body just holds that weight hostage and doesn’t want to budge. Then after that one year mark it starts to come off. Not because I change anything, I didn’t start going to the gym or eating any different. I think perhaps it’s just having a more active child so I’m busier and more active in my day – nothing else.
Admittedly, the second time around I gained less in my pregnancy and now chasing two active kids and managing a business I’m the busiest I’ve ever been. And perhaps there is a bit of anxiety in their too which doesn’t help.
When I posted a picture of my post baby body just over twelve months ago, it sparked a response I was absolutely not prepared for. But it was amazing that something I wrote resonated with so many people and I felt that I needed to use that to do something bigger and better! To continue that message in hopes to reach even more people, and it did.
Puffy face, droopy milk filled boobs, wider hips and belly full of stretch marks!! That’s my post baby reality, no ‘bouncing back’ here! And you know what? I couldn’t give a shit! Because I’m not the same person I was before I had babies, so why would would I want my body to reflect something and someone I no longer am? Those droopy boobs fed my babies and grew them up big and strong 💪🏻 Those hips and rippled belly was home to my little babes for 9 months 🙌🏻 It might not be the ‘transformation’ body so many ogle or aspire to! And sure, some days I wish it didn’t jiggle so much and was a bit ‘firmer’ but then I just remember the awesome shit it’s done and cut myself some slack and go eat a cheeseburger, because we earned it 👍🏻 📸: @sleepinggrace
Our body image campaign “More Than My Body” is something I am so proud of, and something that I absolutely hold myself accountable to when it comes to being honest with my audience about no matter what happens in my life.
The entire purpose of that campaign was to remind ourselves and others that what you are more than just your physical self.
My weight is not a reflection of my whole life, or a precursor for my happiness. Just because I weigh less than I did twelve months ago doesn’t make me any healthier, any happier or any better as a person.
I wanted to wanted to write this today to remind people that they are beautiful no matter what they look like. And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with working towards a healthier and happier you, that might include weight loss. That there is so much more that makes you who you are and you shouldn’t judge a person just on how they look or think it’s a reflection of where they are in their life.
Everyone is different, our bodies are all unique and no two people doing the exact same thing will ever look the same. There is so much more that makes us unique both in our mental being and in our physical bodies.
It is a daily struggle for me. It’s certainly not a journey I felt I’ve taken and reached my destination of absolute self love. I work on it daily, and my motivation is only stronger with the birth of my two young daughters, of whom I believe I am the first and most influential role model for.