Apparently some people think that it is okay to tell another person, who didn’t ask, how they should parent and how they should raise their children?
So often I see and hear people weigh in their commentary (gotta love the comment sections right?) about what they think people should be doing, how they should be doing it, judging people for their decisions and showing a blatant disrespect for their choices as a parent!
How you birth your baby? How you feed them? What you feed them? Who looks after them? How you teach them? How you discipline them? There always seems to be someone to tell you your doing it wrong or to do it another way! Did I ask you? No!
And it’s not like I think I’m doing an absolute cracker of a job either. Quite the contrary, I have no flippin’ idea what I’m doing to be honest and I feel like most days like I’m just fucking it up! It’s all just trial and error over here and what worked yesterday might not even work today!
It’s hard enough, without the unsolicited advise and judgement from others, navigating your way through the shitstorm (sometimes literal shit) that is babies and children. We already feel like were failing, we already have no idea and were really fucking tired!
As parents, both mums and dads, it’s important that we support one another and encourage peoples confidence in what they are doing as parents, even if you might not agree or think it’s what you would do!
And look, I’m not gonna lie! Before I had babies I was one of those people who judged the mum with the screaming child in a cafe and I had made firm decision on how I was going to discipline my future child.
And then guess what? I am now the parent of that toddler who throws a tantrum in a cafe, and turns out it is in no way a reflection of the parent or how that child is raised – TODDLERS THROW TANTRUMS NO MATTER WHAT SOMETIMES!
And as for discipline? Well turns out my none parent answer of a swift smack on the arse doesn’t actually work! Really it just makes the situation worse in my case and while the person giving me a dirty look might think they have all the answer, THEY FUCKING DON’T! (And neither do I still just to clarify)
So lets try and be more encouraging and supportive one another, no matter how much it obviously pains some people to keep their mouth closed! And should someone ask you for help and advise, then by all means knock yourself out, but perhaps deliver it in a way that is a helpful suggestion and not a ‘my way or the highway’ approach! Don’t just go round telling people what to do or judging and shaming them should they do it differently!
Cause seriously, raising tiny irrational dictators is hard enough, I don’t need to deal with big ones!
Now pass the wine!!!!