Recently you may have seen the stupid meme circulating on the internet claiming women who undergo C-sections are selfish, lazy and should be banished to hell. The so-called Disciples of the New Dawn posted several pictures of women with C-section scars, calling that these woman didn’t really give birth and shaming them as ‘lazy’.
I don’t know if the group if for real or it’s just a joke but it’s definitely ruffled a few feathers – mine included! I find it so hard to understand any ideologies that can deny what science has done and can do for us. Woman and children for thousands of years went through traumatic and excruciating births, some even died. But now we have these amazing advances in modern medicine which means we don’t have to endure that anymore – so why turn it away when it can help you?! Furthermore, whether a woman has to undergo surgery due to emergency circumstances or elects to have a caesarean, it is their right to make the decision!
Leading up to Annabelle’s birth I just had this feeling it wasn’t going to end in a natural birth. From the outset she was a bit of a porker and until a week or so prior she was upside down and hadn’t even showed a sign of dropping! So when I went in for my induction I had the gel applied three time over the duration of 2 days – I had some minor contractions but nothing exciting. My doctor then then decided to break my waters and put me on the drip – I had the drip for over ten hours and in that time only got to about four centimetres dilated, so they turned off the drip!
So, after almost three full days of failed induction it had become evident that Annabelle didn’t want to vacate the premise naturally. She was around the wrong way and the hours of forceful contractions had caused her to become quite distressed. While my OBGYN suggested I could wait and come back in a few days to try again, by this stage I was well and truly over it and was quite anxious myself over the effects the past few days had had over me and my daughter! I opted to have an emergency caesarean because I just wanted to make sure she was born safe and healthy.
I was prepped for surgery and wheeled into theatre, it was almost eleven o’clock at night. The surgery it’s self happened really quickly, within a matter of minutes they had cut me open! However, it took a bit to get her out because she was in such an awkward position – they even had to use forceps to help get her out! She also came out with a slight cone head because she had spent so long being pushed from the contractions but didn’t fit. My doctor even acknowledged to me the next day that there was absolutely no way she was going to fit naturally – she was big headed 8+ pound baby and my hips were too small!
Once she was born, they then removed my placenta and stitched me back up – this part felt like it took forever! Once that was finally finished I was able to hold Belle, have cuddles and attempt her first feed. Once we finally got back up to my aftercare room I had every freaking monitor attached, as well as the most annoying compression things put on my legs.
I’m not going to lie, the recovery after an emergency Caesarean is awful – you feel so out of it from days of pain killers, but you can’t refuse take them because you’ve just had major surgery (I tried this, it didn’t end well)! You also can’t lift your own baby and it’s hard to stand, let alone walk for the first few days. However, the recovery time was not nearly as bad as I thought – within a week I could walk around and pick up Annabelle and within two I was completely free of any pain medication.
So would I do it again? Absolutely! If it means that my baby was going to be born safely, then I don’t care how they are born! I was never against having a baby naturally but for circumstances out of my control it meant I wasn’t able to and I will not feel bad for that! For some reason there seems to be such a stigma against caesareans, but it’s not like natural birth’s don’t have their traumatic stories either – at the end of the day it doesn’t matter as long as your baby is born, and born safe!