To My Kid Free Friends…

To My Kid Free Friends…

So, I cannot tell you the number of articles I have read about people condemning their kid free friends for “not getting it” or for being selfish or doing things they can’t stand.

And sure, a lot of friendships change when you go down the family road and they don’t – your lives become very different.

Those friends are usually what I call ‘seasonal’ though. Where you were close because your lives aligned at a certain time and you were doing/ interested in the same things. I.e. getting shit faced every weekend and spending your cash on dresses you couldn’t afford…….

But when I talk about friends, I mean those evergreen ones (yes, I’m talking in tree analogies, you love it don’t lie).

The Good Ones

Those friends you’ve had for years, decades even. Where you might not even see or talk for long periods but you know their still your bestie.

Those friends who you don’t spend every weekend with but they never miss a milestone or momentous occasion. No matter how far they have to travel.

Those friends who at the press of a button and psychotic meltdown are there with wine in hand. They’re ready to listen as quick as they are to tell you that you’re being a fuck whit and snap out of it when needed!

And for me, those friendships have not skipped a beat since becoming a mum, in fact, they are as strong as they’ve ever been!

Becoming A Mum

You see in my close circle, I’m the minority.

I am one of the only ones who has kids. Most of my girlfriends are out building empires, buying up property, dominating in their fields, etc. And for the most part either single or yet to be married. Look, I’m not trying to rush you but I’ve got bulk hens ideas I need to unleash ladies – come on!!

To make it even harder, I moved away from where I spent my teens and early 20’s. So there’s a physical distance to overcome too.

But guaranteed, every baby shower, every birthday and all those times in between they are there. First to arrive to help me set up and last to leave to clean and drink wine with!

They are the ones going all out for a dress up party and actually excited to do it.

They love spending time with my girls, perhaps because it’s still a novelty not having their own. But I know I cannot wait for them to have their own babies. So I can embrace in all the newborn cuddles and spoil them rotten on their birthdays. Okay, you caught me… drink wine with their mums 😉

Just like you get giddy in the experience of sharing these little people with your husband. I cannot wait for the joy of sharing kids with my besties and being able to do what they’ve always done for me.

Nothing’s Changed

I love that we still have the same conversations. We talk about boys, we giggle over sex stories, we bitch about work, and we catch up on the latest gossip. There also just so happens to be sprinkles of baby stuff and they are always happy to hear it.

I think most of my girlfriends would agree that I didn’t change much in that sense when I became a mum. I am still a young ambitious female who loves wine and a goss – I’m also now known as a snack bitch and human tissue on the side!

It probably reflects in the mum friends I do have too. They are all very much the same as me. As they say, your vibe attracts your tribe.

But to all my kid free friends, I just wanted to let you know just how amazing you are. And thank you for sticking by me and helping me retain my identity. All while helping me through the whirlwind that is parenthood with a smile on your face and glitter in your hair.


1 Comment

  1. October 15, 2017 / 10:09 am

    It feels like I have been searching for an article like this for a long time! I was once the friend-without-kids who provided the support and love to my girlfriends and their growing families. Now, I am a first time mum myself and my experience has been such a positive one when it comes to friendships.

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